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Therapy for intimacy seekers : 

preparing your heart for the love

you long for

You’re sick of hearing, “Why are you still single? You’ve got so much going for you.”

You’re sick of hearing, “Why are you still single? You’ve got so much going for you.”

In your 20s, you assumed you’d be settled down by now. An amazing partner, a couple kids, maybe even a dog or two. But with each passing year, your secret fear of becoming the cat lady of your friend group intensifies.

It’s not that you haven’t tried to figure out what you’re doing wrong. You’ve looked everywhere for answers. Yet no matter how many self-help books you devour or relationship experts you follow on Instagram, you still feel stuck in the maze of longing and indecision.

If you’re honest with yourself, you think that maybe that the partner you dream of finding just doesn’t exist. Friends tell you that you’re too picky, but you can’t quite stomach settling for the next guy who flexes his biceps in the bathroom selfie and sends love emojis with the first hello.

But it’s not even that, not really. The thing you really don’t want to admit is that you’re scared of getting close, even when it’s what you have craved for so long.

Despite your best attempts, you can’t sort out the scattered pieces of your life.

You need a therapist who understands how ready you are for a real relationship.

You know, one with a partner who will pick you up from the airport after visiting with your mother, who will not let it go that you’re not yet married.

Who will listen to you when you need to vent at midnight about your co-worker Val who is driving you up a wall.

And who you’re willing to overlook the very blatant flaw of leaving their shoes in the most inconvenient places (seriously, who puts their shoes right in front of the door?).

You know, one with a partner who will pick you up from the airport after visiting with your mother, who will not let it go that you’re not yet married.

Who will listen to you when you need to vent at midnight about your co-worker Val who is driving you up a wall.

And who you’re willing to overlook the very blatant flaw of leaving their shoes in the most inconvenient places (seriously, who puts their shoes right in front of the door?).

Are you ready to embrace the imperfect partner of your dreams?

Hi, I am Kirstin!

Explorer of desert trails and broken hearts, passionate about partnering with successful single women who long to understand why as soon as they start getting really close to someone, they find themselves making lots of excuses to pull away.

Are you sick of having to scroll through Hinge aimlessly?

 

Then it’s time to commit to working with a therapist who gets what you really want: a relationship where you are loved just for who you are, Sunday morning pajamas and all.

I will join you in leaving behind loneliness and embracing intimacy. I specialize in demystifying love for yourself and others, so you can transform loneliness into togetherness.

I am dedicated to guiding you beyond choosing between a “might-as-well-settle-for” partner, or lonely Friday nights at home on the sofa.

I will shine a light so you can feel confident on the journey from alone to together.

Kirstin Carl in meditation posture in grass

Want to know more about my journey as an intimacy seeker?

Serving women throughout California and specializing in relationships, self-esteem, and trauma, Encino therapist Kirstin Carl is here to help you improve your mental health and find the fulfilling love life you’ve been looking for. Whether you are working through anxiety or depression, healing from childhood trauma or toxic relationships, or trying to figure out how to boost your self-confidence, Kirstin is here to take the next step with you.