About Kirstin Carl

About Kirstin Carl

I am Kirstin, a courageous explorer of the heart’s depths, passionate about partnering with successful single women who long to uncover why they get stuck when they try to get close.

About Kirstin Carl

I am Kirstin, a courageous explorer of the heart’s depths, passionate about partnering with successful single women who long to uncover why they get stuck when they try to get close.

My Own Healing Journey inspired
me to become a therapist

When I was younger, I had the opportunity to attend therapy. As it turned out, this experience was transformational for me. Once I had earned my BA degree and contemplated what I wanted to spend the rest of my life doing, my heart kept calling me back to my dream of becoming a therapist. It was hard to picture doing anything else that would be as meaningful or fulfilling to me.

Because my experience as a client was so healing, I wanted to pay it forward and share what I had learned. As a therapist, I want to guide others along a journey of self-understanding that will lead to forging deeper connections with others. This allows them to transform their pain into hope and become the best version of themselves. Since becoming licensed in 2013, I can’t imagine any other career that offers the same amount of challenge and reward as being a therapist. 

My Counseling Philosophy

No one is inherently defective—what lies at the heart of what we perceive as symptoms, problems, and behaviors are the early experiences that continue to shape who we are today. These experiences have a profound impact on how we see the world and relate to others. And because we are all wired for connection, we live with biological predispositions to various behaviors.

Reaching out for help is never a sign of weakness or being flawed; but instead, a sign of  courage and strength. In my experience, anyone can benefit from therapy, no matter their starting point. While some come to therapy to grow and level-up, others are at a boiling point in their struggles and require deep healing work and the tools to resolve a crisis. Because the therapeutic process is different for each person, my job is to guide clients in the right direction and then watch the transformations unfold.

I have learned from my own healing process and experience as a therapist that you can embrace connection with others in all types of relationships. Doing the work enables you to discover more peace and joy than you ever thought possible.

Kirstin Carl wearing purple top outdoors smiling

My Specialties

  • Trauma – The crux of processing unresolved trauma is unearthing the beauty and strength of the true self, helping you recognize that whatever troubling experience you’ve lived through doesn’t have to define you.
  • Parenting – Breaking the cycle of intergenerational trauma lies at the heart of helping parents embody their roles as caregivers. Although it can be lonely and isolating to parent differently than how you were parented, it’s important to remember that the choices you make will outlive you. 
  • Dating – I have a passion for helping clients move toward meeting and embracing the love of their lives, even when they’re scared this person doesn’t exist.
  • Relationships – Even though we’re wired for connection, relationships can be messy and complicated. Together, we can unpack your past to better understand the current dynamics that are making relationships in your life more challenging than they have to be. 
  • Attachment-Based Therapy – I’m excited to share an approach with my clients that gets to the heart of relational suffering and interrupts painful patterns.

My Approach

My experience being on the other side of the couch provides me with a deeper perspective on the therapeutic process. While some therapists just listen, give stock answers, or seemingly go through the motions, I find joy in walking beside clients as they find a path out of the wilderness of their pain. My clients can tell that I care about what I do. I'm not just checking boxesI dive into the deep waters with them to ensure they feel seen and heard in ways they haven't before.

As a therapist, I strive to continually grow and learn. I love soaking up evidence-based research, principles, and frameworks and integrating them into my practice. Throughout therapy, I weave in evidence-based modalities that focus on both past and present relationships to bring about breakthroughs. Sharing my years of knowledge with clients ignites my passion. Further, using metaphors and analogies to make the concepts we explore more tangible helps create a shared meaning they can easily access, leading to deeper discovery. 

Although clients often tell me I am warm and gentle, that doesn’t mean I don’t point out blind spots or initiate difficult conversations. I invite clients to share what's not working in therapy so we can carefully color in the canvas of their unique circumstances and find solutions. However, therapy is both an art and a science. It’s joyful to witness the alchemy that happens when the many aspects of therapy blend together and bring about healing.

A Little More About Me

As a life-long animal lover, I'm passionate about animal rescue and adore my two rescued cats. To challenge myself physically, I take high-intensity interval training classes and am learning to play pickleball. In addition to documentaries and history, I love live music and exploring new places, including California’s many mineral hot springs. 

Kirstin Carl in bright blue shirt in front of lake smiling warmly

Kirstin Carl is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Encino, California. After receiving a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from San Diego State University, Kirstin went on to receive a Master of Science in Counseling from University of Phoenix, Pasadena Campus. Since becoming an LMFT, Kirstin has received training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) by Sue Johnson, 5 Core Areas of the Self Impacted by Trauma by Pia Mellody, and Attachment-Focused Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) by Laurel Parnell. She has also received certification in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) and as a Certified Deeper Dating Mentor. Kirstin has been practicing as a therapist since 2007 and in private practice since 2013.


[1] https://academic.oup.com/ptj/article/90/8/1099/2737932?login=false