Attachment Based Therapy
What Is Attachment-Based Therapy?
The bonds we form in childhood make a lasting impression on the way we relate to others throughout our lives. Attachment-based therapy explores how our fears, needs, and wants impact our ability to connect. For some, a fear of abandonment or rejection permeates our relationships, and we can never seem to get enough reassurance. Or maybe a fear of being engulfed by another fuels a need to keep a distance and avoid getting close to others. In attachment-based psychotherapy, clients will discover their tendencies with the goal of striking a healthy balance between togetherness and autonomy.
Attachment theory therapy’s earliest roots can be traced to Dr. John Bowlby and Dr. Marsha Linehan in the 1950s. These founders performed research studies on children and adults to inform their theories about how relationships with caregivers contribute to attachment styles. ,  In later decades, the additional contributions of Dr. Steven Porges, Bessel Van der Kolk, Dr. Dan Siegel, and Diana Fosha have built upon these earlier studies, further confirming how early caregiver experiences shape our neurological development and adult relational templates.
Who Can Benefit From Attachment-Based Therapy?
Attachment-focused therapy can benefit adults who experience anxiety or depression exacerbated by a history of unhealthy, toxic relationships. If childhood trauma contributes to lingering fears of abandonment, intimacy, or commitment, attachment-based therapy can help you recognize the relational templates that formed with your early caregivers and how they continue to influence you now.
Oftentimes, a pervasive sense of feeling unlovable or focusing on other areas of life instead of close relationships—such as career or travel—can signal an insecure or disorganized attachment style. Attachment-based therapy allows you to dig deep to reveal what your limitations have been so you can create new, intentional templates and rewrite any false narratives that have kept you stuck. With this newfound self-awareness, you can nurture relationships that are based on authenticity and vulnerability.
Starting in the 1990s, research from brain scans has demonstrated how we are neurologically wired for relationships and that our early childhood experiences shape this wiring. What’s more, the neurological alterations achieved with attachment-oriented therapy can re-wire our brains. By forming a relationship with a therapist informed by attachment-based principles in therapy, adults can develop a secure attachment style. 
My Background As An Attachment-Based Therapist
When becoming a practicing therapist in 2007, I was eager to find a modality that brought about deep and lasting change that could be individualized for each client rather than adopt a one-size-fits-all approach. After attending lectures about attachment-based therapy from world-famous attachment researchers, such as Bessel Van der Kolk, Dr. Steven Porges, Dr. Dan Siegel, and Diana Fosha, I was excited to find a model that bridged a connection between early experiences and current struggles.
As an attachment-based therapist, I can help you recognize the patterns that play out again and again in your relationships. By connecting the dots between the past and present, we will focus on ideas and strategies for dealing with present difficulties while examining the root causes underlying current challenges.
I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy into my practice, a modality based on attachment-based theory and principles. This approach focuses on identifying and transforming unhelpful cycles of interacting with others and identifying and expressing vulnerable emotions—such as shame, sadness, and fear—that stem from unmet attachment needs. Additionally, I may integrate developmental theory and somatic approaches to therapy to achieve a well-rounded approach.
Rather than needlessly dredging up the past, I’m passionate about journeying to deep places of wounding as a way to heal. In my career as a therapist and personally, I’ve found that we move toward the past to enable ourselves to live more fully in the present and build the relationships we deeply desire. Utilizing attachment-based therapy can help you break free from what's holding you back and bring about transformation and lasting change in all types of relationships.