How to Cope with Parenting Stress

For most adults, especially parents, stress can feel like a normal part of everyday life. This can be from a stressful job or overall life stressors such as picking children up from school or daycare on time or getting them to various activities.

While it can be hard to admit that you’re stressed out, learning to manage stress can help give you the perspective, patience, and energy you need to be the parent you want to be. Throughout this article, we will discuss ways to manage stress as a parent.

Avoid Bringing Stress Home

This can be easier said than done, but separating work from your home life is important to avoid extra stress. Make small changes like not checking work email from home or setting an out-of-office notification for your home hours. If you work from home, designate a home office as your workspace and only spend time there during office hours.

Find Time to Recharge and Relax

It’s important to take time for yourself every day, even if you can only manage 15 minutes. Give yourself time and space to reset and recharge. A few ways you can do this are by reading, meditating, watching your favorite show, or doing yoga. Take time for yourself so you can be the best version of yourself for your children.

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Find Ways to Have Fun

Look for activities to do with your kids and spouse that you all can enjoy. This could include attending your child’s sporting or school events, reading to your children at night, going to the zoo or park, or cooking or baking something together.

Avoid Over-Scheduling

It’s normal to want to do it all and not miss out on things, but try to avoid over-scheduling yourself. When you over-schedule, it can lead to stressed-out children due to tight schedules. It also doesn’t allow for downtime or spontaneous or last-minute plans.

Focus on the “3 Cs”

The “3 Cs” of parenting—calm, consistent, and clear—can help avoid stress for the parent by level-setting with the family.

Be calm. When feeling stressed as a parent, staying calm can feel nearly impossible. It’s important in these times to remind yourself that you’re the adult, and you need to set a positive example for your child. Taking a deep breath can be a quick way to relieve stress and stay calm.

Be consistent. As the saying goes, “Consistency is key.” It’s important to remain consistent so that both you and your children know the rules and what’s expected of them. 

Be clear. Building off of the first two steps, being clear helps reinforce boundaries. Rather than spending your time arguing and nagging, the children must know the rules and the consequences of their actions. In this step, you must be able to reinforce what you’ve discussed.

Create Routines and Rules

Having routines and rules can help parents avoid stress. It will give children consistency and give the parents structure to fall back on. If a child knows their bedtime routine, it’s easy to have them work on what they can while the parent handles something else.

Pick Your Battles

Building off of offering choices, if your child wants to combine two outfits and you’re just staying home for the day, let them combine the outfits, but also make it clear that if you need to go somewhere, they will need to change. This can avoid conflict and stress at the moment, and it can help the child stay in their routine and follow the rules you’ve set.

It’s important to understand that sometimes, life will be more stressful than others. The more you can experience positive interactions with your kids, the easier it will be to create lifelong memories and fun occasions.

Parent coaching can help you deal with the everyday stressors of raising kids while maintaining your connection with them. Don’t hesitate to reach out to me to learn more.

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